Emotional abuse is just as serious as physical abuse but can be much harder to identify, particularly if your relationship is so mired in it that the abuse becomes your new norm.
If you believe you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, it is extremely important not to make excuses and to trust your instinct. Your life may depend on it and that is not something to be taken lightly.
According to the linked article, The following are 5 signs that may be in an emotionally abusive relationship:
1. Support or Discouragement?
Do you share your joys, dreams and plans with your partner? Are you excited to discuss and hope for the future? If not, this can be a sign of serious issues in your relationship. Healthy relationships are built on support and spouses supportive of each other. You don’t always have to agree on every plan or step in the relationship but spouses should be respectful of one another and encourage each other whether they agree or not.
2. Admiration or Criticism?
If everyone else is complimenting your recent achievements, except for the one person that should be, your spouse, this can be a sign of emotional abuse. An emotionally abusive partner tends to always want to tear you down rather than build you up.
An emotionally abusive spouse typically feels completely indifferent to your hardships or sad events that you face. For example, the death of a relative or a bad occurrence at work. When you need a shoulder to cry, but know that you cannot rely on your spouse, then there is a serious problem.
All relationships have ups and downs, no one can deny that fact. However, when healthy relationships face hardship, couples typically try to find a common ground and make things right. They do everything they can to work for balance, health and happiness. However, an emotionally abusive relationship thrives on chaos and emotional disaster.
5. Always taking the blame?
An emotionally abusive relationship is one in which one partner is constantly blamed for everything that happens. For example, if you were not late making dinner, such and such would not have happened, etc. There is always something you are doing wrong or to be blamed for and no amount of argument will change that.
It is extremely important to understand the severity of emotional abuse and the toll it can take if one remains in an emotionally abusive relationship. A healthy relationship is built on love, support, balance and respect. Recognizing an abusive relationship is very difficult but understanding that you may not be in a healthy situation is usually quite clear. Seek help from a therapist, a friend, an attorney. It is important to understand that you deserve better and you can get out of a bad situation.
At Argyris Mah, LLP we can help if you find yourself in either an emotionally or a physically abusive relationship. Contact us at 408-214-6366 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org for a free consultation.